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Stop comparing yourself and find the motivation to act

It's time to get out of the downward spiral of lack of motivation and compare with the following steps.



In the next 3 minutes you will learn:
-Because you deserve to find your why.
-How will you reward yourself?


We all go through these days or phases when we feel that we have lost all energy to try, all interest and mobilization to continue our course. A common phrase I hear in the office from new coaches is "I'm not in the mood for anything". What else happens when we feel that way? We fall into the trap of comparison! Social media is always there to remind us that others are full of energy, active, successful, happy, better than us… right?

It's time to get out of the downward spiral of lack of motivation and compare with the following steps.

Do you need a break?
That's a good first question. With the pandemic, the lockdown, the online work we forgot what vacation would mean. Months have passed and if you look back you may not have given yourself any rest for relaxation, physically and mentally. If you did not do it, do it now. Organize something, big or small, it does not matter. Take a break, rest, change for a few days routine, deal with other things, people or yourself, but in a mood of self-care and relaxation.

Find your why, or at least a remarkable why
When we talk about mobilization we have to find a purpose, a reason behind what we do. Whether it is for work or personal life, why do you want to do what you try or think to do? There is a deeper reason, is there a purpose? Try to discover it (it does not have to be eloquent and admirable, as long as it makes sense to you). When you find out why, write it down on a piece of paper and place it somewhere so you can see it. I would suggest putting a little soul into this paper, adding color and photos that represent your purpose.

Set a goal now (big or small)
When we do not have a clear goal it is natural to lose motivation and mood. There is no specific direction, so we disarm, detune and feel lost. Now set a goal for your why, even if small, and get started.

Reward
Since we are talking about goal setting, do not forget to reward yourself when you achieve your small or big goals. Think in advance what you will offer yourself, something attractive for you that will motivate you. Recognize and celebrate any of your successes. We all tend to focus on the negatives, on what did not go well, so try to record your successes, even the small ones and celebrate the bigger ones!

Focus on your own course, do not compare
So when we feel empty without energy and mood we easily enter the process of comparison. Why can others, why do they not, why do they have the mood and ideas for so much and I for nothing? When this happens you say to yourself "Stop" and do something else. Break the cycle of these thoughts! Everyone has their own course, way, time.

Turn down the noise
If the comparison bothers you, avoid what causes it. This can mean stopping following some people on social media or changing the content of your feed, or even taking a break from it all by closing some apps. Make the conditions so that you have a little peace, space and time to listen to your wants and not the noise and the constant stimuli of your environment.

See the comparison from another perspective
At first it is good to recognize and accept that what you see and compare may not correspond to reality. Still show curiosity, ask yourself why you are compared to others, what could be behind it? What do they have or do that you would like? What characteristics or behaviors do you admire and would you like to adopt? What steps have they taken that can serve as an example for you? The comparison can also become a compass that will guide us to our goal and who we want to be.

Here are some steps you can take to begin the process of preparation for mediation. If you need support you can always turn to a specialist.